Tuesday, February 21, 2017

He said,"The train you are waiting has already gone in the morning"

It was a tiring day. After roaming around the entire city for the whole day it was time to go back home.

I went to catch a train to train station. I waited for about half an hour for the announcement board to show the train name, but it didn't.
Finally as the time of train arrival was approaching I went to the inquiry. I stood in the queue for a couple of more minutes. And finally, my number came.
I asked, "Which platform the train to Delhi (Bhopal Express) that is about 5 pm comes on?"
The attendant looked at me carefully.
He asked, "Where do you want to go?"
I responded. "Delhi but I have booked tickets"
He took a deep breath and said, "Sir you have booked a wrong ticket the train has gone at about 5 am in the morning you are asking about it now in the evening."

It was a big blow for me. I didn't know what to do. My dream to go comfortably sleeping in train after a tiring day got crushed. And I started cursing myself how I can be so stupid. To make the situation worse I had a company of one of my female foreigner friends.

I thought of taking the bus. I asked a police lady for direction to bus stand she suggested me to take another train. I went to buy tickets, they asked me to fill up the form and pay heavy charges for the ticket (for next train Gatiman express) that was way beyond my budget for such a small journey from Agra to Delhi.

I planned to go by a normal bus. But as soon as I came out of the station; auto drivers started pulling me to take me to bus stand as they have the commission on the ticket. I asked for Ola cab and asked him to take me to the Govt. bus stand.

After waiting for long he came. He took us to a private bus stand and said can't take us to Govt. bus stand as it is very far and his cab doesn’t have gas.  I believe he took me there to take the commission on my ticket.

I did another cab and asked him to take me to Govt bus stand but he took us to a very far big bus stand not the one I wanted.

We went inside and asked, they said buses are scarce because of the election. If you want to catch a bus you get to wait on the main road.
We walked till the road and stood there in the dusty crowded square.
Everybody was looking at us and some came promising a luxury bus to Delhi. But I was no more willing to be ticked.
We waited, waited more,.. checking every other bus which drove past. We were tired, confused, I was not over with my guilt and stupidity of booking the wrong train and believing all the cab drivers and not doing proper research of the city and bus stands.
We were running behind buses, checking them, and were getting exhausted.

Suddenly the Streat Food Vendor who was observing us looked at us and said "Babu ji chinta mat
karo bas kuch hi minto me bus aati hogi, aapako aaram se bas mil jayegi, sab bas ab khali aani hain, seat bhi mil jayege" 
(Sir don’t worry, you will get the bus in few minutes, and all the buses will be empty now so you will get the seat too.)

I know that was all lie, but I wanted to believe that. And to make ourselves little comfortable I believed in his words. I realized the power of few positive words there -those words made me hopeful and strong.

We waited for some more time and a bus came from inside the bus stand. I confirmed with the conductor that the bus was going Delhi. But he said that there was no seat.
We push entered into the bus and stood near the gate.

The drivers asked us to sit on the floor at the front; as the door will open at every stop and it will be very uncomfortable for us and conductor. We went ahead and sat on the floor of the bus. It was uncomfortable but at least we got the bus.

After a while, a boy sitting on a seat near us offered us his seat. I asked my friend to sit, and the boy and I sat together on the floor.

On the way, he asked, "Which country are you from"
I said, "I am Indian but my friend is foreigner"

He smiled and said I thought you too are a foreigner. And we both started laughing and talking.

His name is Arnav Kulshreshtha and is doing Mechanical Engineering from GLA University Mathura. I was Mechanical Engineering graduate and moreover, my brother had been a professor in his college; so I found a connection.

I thanked him and we started talking about engineering subjects, girls, college, career, life and lot much more. He had his friend sitting beside him in the seat, who later offered me his seat as well.

Finally, the journey was uncomfortable on many levels but this kind soul saved my day. My hope in humanity got strengthened that day.
People are awesome don’t lose hope in humanity.
Engineers are good people :)
God bless this kind soul.  

Saturday, November 8, 2014

After Joyful celebration with my sisters family in Bhiwari (It lies on Rajasthan-Haryana border ) not very far away from Gurgaon, I accompanied my sister's family to Anand Vihar railway station station as they were leaving for Chhath puja at their native place. After getting off the car, me and my brother in law were walking on the platform towards retiring room and saw one person spitting paan/gutakha on the wall.
Before that man could pass the exit another man standing there slapped him tight, we were shocked and the guy who spitted was dumbfound for few seconds and then said "sorry sir galti ho gaya,ab se kabhi nhi karunga(Sorry sir for the mistake and shall never repeat this mistake again)"

It needs lot of courage to take such bold actions; we thought he must be a very powerful person or some responsible officer. So my brother in law reached to him and asked "Sir aap kuch hai kya matlab yaha ke officer or kuch (Sir are you some kind of officer here)". He calmly replied "Main tax-payer hun(I am a tax payer)", before we could even say anything he smiled and moved ahead. This was something what I had never seen or heard of, I was still pondering on the event then I suddenly heard my brother in law shouting "aye kya kar raha hai (aye.. what are you doing??)" an another man was spitting on the wall, hearing him shout the man looked down and ran away.
My sense of responsibility was shaken, and now I hope I have courage to stop someone who spits or litters.

Saturday, September 27, 2014

Ramleela Revisited.

After years a thought occur to my mind why not revisit the childhood. Let us see Ramleena, of course these kind of thoughts come to you when you
are in 'Surur'. So we visited nearby Ramleela. Everything was more or less same like it used be 10-15 years ago. Families flocked together to see evergreen story of lord Ram. When teenage boys and girls have official permission to go out in the night.
We sat on the chairs which were vacant. The scene was 'Ram' trying to convince his wife not to come along as he is going to jungle and there are hidden dangers for her. But being 'Dharmpatni' Sita is stubborn to face the challenge of life with her husband. After a long conversation Ram succumbs to the wishes of her wife, which continues till now that wife wins every argument.

None the less I was more interested in small love stories forming behind the scene. So I spotted few of them. The way we used to see the girls in our days haven't changed much but teenagers have become bold now. The bold and beautiful girls playing with her hair to have attention of good looking guys other side, and courageous guys roaming around them and passing a gage of 'Hey I see you'.

One of two such teenage gaze I also got making a statement 'See I am here'. May be I am wrong but being under alcoholic influence my confidence could have got their attention.

It was all like old days, shops, swings, children with boundless energy enjoying. Parents lost in the Ram and Sita and children lost in their own word.

One story behind me was forming I could guess by their giggles. A beautiful teenager with mobile in her hand had a boy so close to her like they didn't want air to pass through the gap. The boy's hand was on her shoulder and he was playing with her hair and sometime with her cheeks, and girl was showing him something on mobile which merely was a pretext to the grooming romance in between them.

I was enjoying this romantic affair and suddenly someone tapped on my shoulder .. I turned around and saw a police man. God it felt like someone has thrown me out of thirteen floor where I was enjoying my time. I was so scared I couldn't say anything I thought I am busted.
Suddenly he said, go to another side this is "ladies only" area. No wonder why seats were vacant there. 
I took a sigh of relief and started to my home, as I was coming out of the ground I saw a Popcorn seller. The seller was clearly a Muslim, he shouldn't be here as his religious leaders say hearing anything about any god is Haram.

We bought popcorn and enjoyed it nicely.... on the way my mind was dwelling in both the stories. .. a teenage romance and  a Muslim serving all Hindu customer in a Hindu festive...........and my mind still thinks..

Sunday, September 14, 2014

"YES!! I am a Woman. I have breasts AND a cleavage! You got a problem!!??"

From overdone adds to paid news to turning news into soft porn, media has hit all time low in journalism now.
In recent times, while covering news on Bollywood, Hollywood stars to sportsmen/women, media has been doing this deliberate attempt to get semi nude pictures or ward robe malfunctioning to put it on the cover to grabs eyeballs and sell news.
Recent victim was Deepika Padukone, when Times Of India, made news on her cleavage, and blatantly making it hot potato stating see her cleavage.

"OMG: Deepika Padukone's cleavage show!" Times Of India
What seer shamelessness. Is this how news is covered, have you even bothered to tell what the news was about. Or we should expect more news about celebrity’s cleavages.

"Seriously Inida's Leading newspaper and this is "NEWS"!!??" Deepika Padukone.
Well said Deepika..!!
"YES!! I am a Woman. I have breasts AND a cleavage! You got a problem!!??" Deepika
Nice Deepak, I wish, if only you could slap.

"It's compliment! You look so great that we want to make sure everyone know!. :) " TOI
Wow nice compliment, can you give same compliment to any women in your family.
By looking her cleavage you came to know she looks good. And wanted to show it to the world??
Are you really out of your mind.. and you did dare to put smiley on the top of it..!!!

"Don't talk about Woman's Empowerment when YOU don't know how to RESPECT Women!" Deepika
Well said Deepika!! Such people shouldn’t even be allowed to talk to women.

This is clear case of objectifying women, ..which Hollywood Bollywood have been doing since beginning. And marketers have been using their assets to sell products. However selling news showing beautiful woman’s cleavage is certainly not a good thing to do in journalism. It is not ethical, should be made ill-legal too. Media is fourth pillar of democracy, if media roams around the bosoms of celebrities leaving its responsibility of bringing social issue in the lime light. I am sorry to say we are heading towards dooms day as society and as a democracy.

Time to introspect for media, hope it does..!!

हिंदी दिवस की शुभकामनायें 

हिंद देश के निवासी सभी जन एक है रंग, रूप, वेश, भाषा चाहे अनेक है

जहाँ हमारे देश में कट्टर हिंदीवादी हिंदी को राष्ट्रीय भाषा घोषित कर उसे देशव्यापी बनाना चाहते हें। वहीं हिंदी के धुर विरोधी इस प्रस्ताव को सिरे से ख़ारिज करते हे. हिन्दीवादी इसे देश की सभ्यता और संस्कृति को सुरक्षित करने की ओर एक पहल के रूप में देखते है तो वही विरोधी इसे देश पर एक बोझ समझते हे और भाषा-बोली की स्वतंत्रता पर आघात।
मेँ नहीं जानता कि हिंदी का प्रचार-प्रशार और जबरन कार्यान्वयन देश के लिए कितना लाभकारी होगा पर कुछ बाते ध्यान देने योग्य हे

भारत एक भौगोलिक और सांस्कृतिक विषमताओं का देश हे , यहाँ एक ही त्यौहार कई तरीके से अलग - अलग जगहों पर मनाया जाता हे, और एक समूह दूरसे से बिलकुल ही विषम हो सकता हे ऐसे में "एक देश एक पहिचान" वाली बात कहाँ तक सार्थक हे !

कुछ लोगो को लगता हे कि अंग्रेजी, ‘हिंदी और हिंदुस्तानी’ सभ्यता और संस्कृति को निगल जाएगी। पर क्या एक भाषा ही संस्कृति का परिचायक हे।
पर इस बात पर कोई दो राय नहीं कि हममें अभी भी मानसिक दासिता हे जो अंग्रेजी बोलने वाले को पढा - लिखा एवं सभ्य समजते हें और देशी भाषा (हिंदी या अन्य) बोलने वाले को गँवार। पर क्या हिंदी को बलपूर्वक देशव्यापी कर देने से समस्या का हल हो जायेगा। सभ्यता सद-चरित्र से आती हे और चरित्र किसी भाषा का मोहताज नहीं।

हमारे लिए ये गर्व की बात हे कि हम विविध हे और बहुभाषी भी, बॉलीवुड हिंदी में फिल्म बनाकर उसका प्रचार करता है जो सराहनीय हे पर यदि बॉलीवुड को भी हिंदी की बाध्यता होगी तो शायाद, सिनेंमा का आनंद कम हो जायेगा।

हमको अपनी सभ्यता और संस्कृति पर गर्व करना चाहिए, और देश की विषमताओं को देख कर किसी भाषा के लिए बाध्यता नहीं करनी चाहिए , उसका प्रचार - प्रसार करने पर भी कोई पांबदी नहीं होनी चाहिए।
हर हिंदुस्तानी को कम से कम द्विभासी होना चाहिए, एक मातृभाषा एवं एक अंग्रेजी, क्योकि अंग्रेजी इंटरनेट के जरिये ज्ञान के द्वार खोलती हे और ज्ञान से ही मनुष्य उज्ज्वल भविष्य का निर्माण कर सकता हे

मुझे हिंदी से अगाध लगाव हे और में चाहता हूँ क़ि सारा विश्व इस प्राचीन पर पूर्ण भाषा की खूबसूरती से सराबोर हो पर जबरन नहीं।

हिंदी दिवस की शुभकामनायें , हिंदी तुम चिरकाल तक होठों पे सजी रहो !


Friday, September 12, 2014

Sugar Daddy Dating:

West may be developed but is it not the perfect world, people aren't happy there either. But as it has been from generations we just copy west blindly and bad things are copies even faster.

Sugar Daddy Dating:
It is mutual agreement of wealthy man seeking young girls looking from sexual favor in return to the expensive gifts and luxuries provided.
 Until just a few years ago many people had the misconception that a Sugar daddy relationship was a forbidden affair between a wealthy older gentleman and an attractive, but naive young woman.
These liaisons were thought to be improper as the rich, experienced and mature gentleman was in fact taking advantage of the girl by enticing her with an upscale way of life that she could never experience on her own.
This consisted of glamorous vacations, dining and 5 star restaurants and incredible gifts. This is a complete fallacy as the great majority of these relationships are built on trust and respect with the goal of a mutually beneficial relationship.
 These are view expressed in western media. However I think in Indian context it simply put is "Prostitution" sugar coated and named "Sugar Daddy Dating", it is widely practiced in west, many companies give such arrangement services as well. It is spreading in India faster than we think. This phenomena is reported in India recently specially in college girls, under the carpet it happens, and society is cool with it until and unless someone reports rape or there is other tragedies.  Though there is nothing wrong legally when two adults seek company to satisfy their needs. However it gets ugly in the end.
>It not only goes to adults, but children are also lured in it.
>It leads to the rape.
>It leads to orgy, influencing psychotic behaviors.
>It changes the perception of relation and entire love, family concept goes for a toss.

We cannot change the psychopaths, perverts out there luring girls and kids. But we can have precautionary measures.
>Be careful about dating sites, and online chatting platforms.
>Keep watch on your children’s net surfing.
>Warn yourself and your friends that a 60 year old with BMW saying 'I love you' in first meeting is not really love.
>Keep your friends circle clean, some friends aren't really friends. Some nerdy and creepy friends can put in the wrong place.
>Don’t crave for some exiting sexual or luxury experiences that may lead you to dangerous life style with no morals and happiness.

Consequences having such relation:
>You may disgust yourself after a while.
>The guilt will set in and happiness will be distanced.
>Won't be able to enjoy truly romance with your lifetime partner.
>Will lead to trust deficit life and love won't grow in your heart.

Be warned; educate your friends and family not fall into the trap of Sugar Daddy’s or their pimps.


Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Who gave you this right to you 'Media'?

Who gave you this right to you 'Media'? And you too social media: You were suppose to check media by raising your own morals?

You threw a well known national award winner actress in the 'Masasla' hungry society, to shred the very soul of a young actress by their everyday remarks and character assassination.
 Oh ya..! You needed TRP right..!  And you social media you need 'likes', 'shares', 'comments' that’s all you are bothered about.

A young girl did something 'Immoral' as you call it, is that immoral or why did she do that is different discussion all together. But why her… and only her?

One side you glorify a 'Porn Star' and shower your praise; and the other side you do 'Character assassination' of a young actress despite knowing that there is hungry world out there to devour her soul every time she steps out.
 It was her personal matter of choice. Why her name was all over the world, at least in India spread like wild fire? 

If you have guts, name the hotel owner, name the high profile customers she was attending. Why your eyes can't see them?
No no no .. 'Ye India hai yaha aadami logo ka sab chalta hai, bade log hai wo'. .!

Without demand there is no supply, we all have in some point in time shared dinner table, talked, spend time together, or at least did shake hands with a man who visited prostitutes, or at least cheated in his relationship. That is OK with us, but have we ever shared a dinner table with 'Prostitute', or even talked to her properly... it is unthinkable.. isn't it…?

Oh ya..!! How dare I say that? Prostitute: 'Randi Sali' .. you don't even call her without putting a curse attached, forget about calling her by her name.

I don't know who to blame. I am also the apart of this society. Are our dual standards degrading our morals and thus misogyny is so prevalent.

It is time to think again:
यत्र नार्यस्तु पूजयन्ते रमन्ते तत्र देवता:”: Vedic verse
“God lives there where women are worshiped”